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M is ruining my credibility.

These past few weeks, the blog has been about the various temper tantrums that we’ve been experiencing with our new little “terrible two.”

Those are true stories. 

My parents surprised us with a visit this past weekend, and did M have a tantrum?

Absolutely not.  Not one.  Not even a small whine or whimper!

And of course, the minute they leave, it’s on the floor and crying because I didn’t crawl into the bathroom with her for her nightly bath.  It’s on the floor and crying because I turned the lights off too soon for her liking.  It’s on the floor and crying because she asked for milk and my walking into the kitchen to get it for her just took a little too long for her liking..

I guess it’s a good thing that she’s on her best behavior in front of other people.  But after all the stories I’d been sharing with my mother, she kind of wanted to see some of it in action. 

Maybe I should just have them over all the time.  Maybe that cures “terrible twos.”

Has this ever happened to you?!

I’ve been dealing with these toddler temper tantrums for almost two weeks now.

There have been good days.  There have been bad days.

One thing I’ve learned about myself is that I’m actually a lot more patient than I realized I am.

Ok.. so it’s only been two weeks.  AND I know I haven’t seen the worst of it yet. 

But considering what I thought of myself prior to this phase, I’ve been doing well. 

I’ve always considered myself pretty impatient.  In most cases, I still am.

But when it comes to M and her tantrums, I seem to find a sort of calm in trying to deal with it.  I think it’s because I know that if I come into the situation with my temper flared up, it’s only going to make the situation worse.  I also know that at this point in the temper tantrum game, her tantrums don’t last very long and she is easily distracted from them. 

So at this point, I think I have it somewhat under control.

However.. like all things “toddler-related,” this will eventually change. 

I’ll return to this subject in about a month and we’ll see how well I’ve kept my cool.

I just hope I understand you…

By the time M was about a year and a half, she was talking fairly well.  I mean, I understood her most of the time.  She was able to identify objects, particularly objects she liked or needed..

Since then, I’ve encouraged her to “use her words.”

Now that she’s older, I try to emphasize using her words, especially since she’s well into her terrible two, temper tantrum phase.

She’s been ok with it… as long as I can understand her.

Case in point:
Last night’s bath.  She wanted to go into the bath with her shirt on.  As she was climbing in, I picked her up and took her shirt off.  She wasn’t happy with that and just started crying.  I had to reason with her that she couldn’t wear her clothes into the bath.  Then, she turns to me and says something that started with an “a.”  Through her tears, she was pleading with me with using this word I could not understand.

She was using her words, but I just didn’t understand them..

I ended up sticking her in the bath and she cried for awhile, most likely from the frustration of not being understood, then she was gleefully distracted by the running water and her toys.

I felt bad.  All this time, I tell her to use her words, and when she actually does try to use them, I had no idea what she was saying. 

Sigh.. Toddler problems..

Ok.. she did it.

Little M had her first on the floor tantrum.

I don’t know if it really constitutes as a tantrum because it didn’t last long..

You decide.

Usually M has a bottle of milk before going to bed.  The usual routine is that she sits on my lap and we cuddle while she drinks her warm milk.  Sometimes she falls asleep that way, sometimes she just drinks the milk.

Lately, she’s been asserting her independence and wanting to walk around while holding her bottle..

That would be totally fine if she didn’t like to “water” the carpet with her milk bottle leaving little drops of milk all over the carpet.

So, I take the bottle away and tell her that she can only drink the milk if she sits down with Mimi..

Ok.. so that worked out.. or so I thought.

She sat on my lap to drink milk for two minutes when she decided that she wanted to start walking around again.

Trying to reason with her, I told her that she could walk with the bottle as long as she didn’t put milk on the carpet. 

That went well for.. five seconds!

She starts to tip the bottle upside down and I take the bottle from her telling her that I had told her not to do that..

That’s when she screamed at me.. put herself on the floor.. arched her back and threw herself back down.. and cried..

But just for a split second.

Then she got back up.. came me on the couch.. and said, “up.”

She didn’t drink milk after that, but she cuddled on my lap until it was time to go to bed..

Tantrum?  A small release of frustration?  What do you think?


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