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When people ask me, “how old is your child?” I always answer in months.  I get the same response from other parents.  It’s like “parent code.”

It’s always been wierd for me, especially since M is so close to 2, to say that she’s only one.  For some reason, saying her age in months just makes more sense.

This topic has been discussed in this blog post, click here.

Now that M is so much closer to two, when people ask her age, I say “Two next month.”

Ok.. it’s better than saying “twenty three months.”  That’s such a mouthful and by the time you hit the twenty months or so, math is pretty much involved in determining exactly how old the child is.

We all know that I hate math.. and if you didn’t know it before, you do now!

I think after a child hits 2 year old, the mindset changes.  I don’t usually hear other parents address their child’s age as “twenty-six months” or “twenty-nine months..”  Maybe I just don’t hear it.

Either way, I think once M turns two, I will probably addressing her as such.

What’s your take on this whole age thing?!

 

I’m working on setting up a lot more toddler item reviews.

I started trying to do some reviews earlier this year, and then I sort of just stopped.

I blame laziness. 

Because this has become sort of a mommy blog, it’s important to sprinkle a few reviews every now and then.

So my question for you is this…

What do you want to see me review?

All the items I have reviewed and will be reviewing are items that I have either purchased myself, or borrowed from the library, or have borrowed from friends or relatives. 

At this point in the blog, no one is sponsoring me.  No one is sending me items to try, although I’m definitely not opposed to the option.

All the opinions are my own.  All my reviews are personal experiences with the product or place.  My daughter will have tried every single item reviewed when pertaining to a toddler item.

Please let me know if there is anything you’d like to see.  If we have it, or it’s easily attainable, we will definitely put it in the queue to be reviewed.

 

I read things about other parenting styles.

Rigid schedules.  Early bedtimes.  Strict diets.  All organic foods.  Homemade baby food.  No TV.  Limited TV.  3 Day Potty training. 

Do I stick M to a rigid schedule?  No.

Does she go to bed by 7pm?  No.

Do I make sure everything that touches M’s mouth is organic?  No.

Do I turn my nose to fried and/or processed foods for M? No.

Does M sleep in her own room? No.

Do I follow the parenting methods of some book or studied the works of parenting experts?  No.

Does that make me a bad parent?  Absolutely not.

Does it sometimes cause me to doubt my parenting skills?  Well.. sometimes…

Yes.. I do question my parenting skills.. and I do question my parenting choices.. but doesn’t everyone? 

Every family is different.  Every child is different.  Every parents “parents” differently. 

However, you can’t avoid comparing yourself to others.  It’s inevitable.   Even if you try to avoid it, sometimes you get unsolicited advice or even criticism of the choices you make for your child.  That causes you to question your skills.

I think a little self-doubt is healthy.  It keeps you aware of the different methods of dealing with parenting situations.  A little self-doubt allows you to think twice about a parenting decision and maybe even helps you try something different if your own methods aren’t quite working to your standards.

I’m learning that mommy doubt is natural, but I shouldn’t let get out of hand.  I’m ok with what I’m doing as a mother.  I’m ok with the decisions I’m making.  I’m ok with the little person M is becoming because of my parenting decisions.

I think the goal for every good parent is simple… to raise a good child to turn him or her into a good adult.  That’s the bottom line. 

 

 

Mother’s Day is coming up..

It’s my second one. 

Last year, M was only 8 months old.. didn’t do much.. but reading last year’s blog post reminded me of what she was like that time..

This year, at 20 months, she’s a completely different person.. and I feel like I’ve grown as a mother..

This past year has taught me patience, as M is approaching the “terrible twos” I have noticed a slight change in her personality and her need to do things without my help.  The crying fits that seem to be controled by a hair trigger have taught me a lot of patience.  Potty training has taught me patience..

This past year has shown me a love I’ve never known.  That love between a child and mother is so pure and precious, I could never take it for granted.  I thank God everyday for this particular blessing.  Her hugs are so genuine.  When she looks me in the eyes and says, “mimi?” when she’s doing something she’s proud of.. I feel her love and admiration. 

She loves me even after I have to be firm with her.  She loves me even after I have to pull her away from something she wanted but couldn’t have.  She loves me after she cries her eyes out when I tell her she can’t do something bad or dangerous.  Seconds later, she’s in my arms and smiling and playing with me again.

She is unconditional love personified. 

On this Mother’s Day, I don’t ask for anything special.  I don’t need flowers, candy, jewelry, or pampering..

On this Mother’s Day, I get all the thanks I need from the special little girl I call my daughter.  I get all the thanks I need when she comes home from being at grandma’s house, runs over to me and gives me the biggest hug she knows how.  I get all the thanks I need when she calls me “mimi.”  I get all the thanks I need just knowing that she’s happy and loved. 

Happy mother’s day to all the wonderful mothers, grandmothers, and mothers-to-be..

Well.. it WAS going so well..

A week ago, M had a bout of constipation.  It caused a small fissure that would show blood in her stools.  Initially, I thought it was strawberries, but my mother in law said she didn’t eat strawberries..

After emailing her pediatrician a picture of poop, it was determined that she was constipated and needed to take some Miralax to help her out.

I didn’t want to give her Miralax, so we opted for a more natural way to help her.  In came the prune juice, apple juice, corn, broccoli stalks, and other fruits and veggies. 

For the past few weeks, M has really been all about “noo-nuls.”  She wanted noodles all the time.. noodles or rice.. I think it was all that starch that contributed to her constipation..

We still feed her noodles, but now we make sure that she’s eating her veggies and other foods during dinner.  It’s a battle, but it’s a battle we are currently winning as her digestive system is starting to find it’s way back to normalcy..

This leads to problems in potty training.  The harder it became for her to go #2, the more hesitant she became to sit on her potty.  The last time she tried on her potty to go #2, she cried.  That was it.. and she didn’t want to do anything on the potty any more.. not even pee.

She’ll still sit on the potty.. but when it comes to actually doing business on it, she’ll cry.  I try to tell her that it’s ok to even just go pee pee, but she still won’t.  She still loves using the potty as an excuse to get her out of situations, but she just won’t go.

I know she’s very young and she still has a lot of time to readjust, but she was doing so well!

I will continue to sit her down on the potty, since she still likes it, but I won’t force her to actually go until she’s ready.  I don’t want to traumatize her, but I want her to still remember that the potty is always there for her.

I’m sure tons of parents have experienced this in the past… what did you do to get your toddler back in the potty habit?

Who ever said potty training was a test of patience wasn’t joking!

This potty training thing is difficult..

I guess you can say that I’m not training her in the sense that she has to be out of diapers by a certain time.  I’ve been taking my time with her and letting her own nature take it’s course.  So far she’s been progressing fairly well.. and granted there are good days and bad days.. for the most part.. it’s all been good.

I haven’t taken her out of diapers yet.  She’s only 19 months!  I know we aren’t ready for that step.

But I have to say, there are days where we won’t have to change her PullUp until the lining inside gets all bunchy and outta place.

Over the weekend, she wore her Pull Up from 11pm til about 2:30pm the next day!  That’s over 12 hours of using the potty!

She’s really progressing on her own, and I’m glad that it’s a “no pressure” situation for her and all of us.

It DOES take a toll on me..

While I welcome in whole-heartedly, she will wake up slightly into the night and ask to potty.  I’m a girl that LOVES her sleep, so having to get up in the middle of the night to take a half-asleep kid to the potty just kills me a little bit.  But I know that I shouldn’t hinder her progress and I just give up as one of the many mommy sacrifices I must make in my life.

M’s also starting to be very vocal about her needs.. which is great.  She lets us know that she has to go even when we are out running errands.

I’ve taken to bringing a portable potty, but she’s still not used to it.  I’ve tried to sit her on the adult potties and holding her carefully, but she’s too scared.  I’ve tried to bring her Elmo potty with us on the road, but there’s too much distraction sitting on her potty in the trunk of our SUV..

She won’t go when we are out, but then she’ll also hold it in as long as she can until we go home.  She’ll even beg to go home because she needs “potty.”   I feel so bad that I tell her it’s ok to go in her diaper.. but sometimes she just won’t go.  Poor baby holds it in til we get home..

The travel potty and bringing her Elmo just won’t work right now because she’s still at the stage where she needs all the conditions to be “just right.”  I know eventually she’ll get over it and learn to go in whatever potty is presented to her, but it’s just a frustrating process for her and I together.  I wish there was a way that she could go potty outside the home in the receptacles I provide her…

Last Sunday, we went to Mass.  I don’t think I sat in for half of it because most of the time we were outside on her Elmo potty in the back of our SUV.  She really had to go but just couldn’t do it.  She had fallen asleep and missed out on our lunch… it seemed like hours and hours.. once we got home, I put her on her potty and she did her business.  She held it in for so so long.  I can’t help but feel bad.

How did you do the whole potty training thing when they had to go outside the house but just couldn’t do it?  Suggestions?

You know you’re a parent when you’re super happy that you’re child used the potty for a good chunk of the evening before bed.

I mean, seriously…

Her little Pull-Up was DRY!

And she told me she needed to potty three times that night!

I know.. it’s a small triumph in the big scheme of potty training.. but a good day is a good day.. yesterday was good.. tomorrow she might pee on the floor.. every day is a new day.. so I gotta celebrate these little victories!

 


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