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This year, I decided to not formally do One Little Word, but to still incorporate a word into my year.

This year, I also decided to do two words.  One word is for me.  One word is for the family.

My word this year is EXPLORE.

Last year, I just wanted to survive.  Life with a new baby proved to be a bit overwhelming.  It’s amazing how one little person can make a family feel so complete, but so different, at the same time!  I was trying to figure out how to function.  There were so many changes, becoming a full stay at home mom, taking care of TWO kids.  It was a struggle.  We stayed home a lot because I never really felt brave enough to go out with the two girls without any help.  I was scared I’d mess something up.  I was scared to look like I didn’t know what I was doing.  Just the thought of preparing an outing without Hubby felt overwhelming.  So we only went out without Hubby if it was absolutely necessary.

Towards the end of the year, however, as K got older, and I was much more adjusted, we were able to go out just to get some fresh air.  I was much more confident in getting us out the door and we started going out more.

So this year, I want to further boost my confidence with the word EXPLORE.  This year, we try to go places we don’t usually go.  I want to take my girls to places outside of our usual Target, Starbucks, and Walmart trips.  I want to EXPLORE the libraries, parks, and other fun places.  It doesn’t have to these major outings.  I just want them to be a little more out of our comfort zone.  EXPLORE.

For the family, I chose the word ACTION.

Hubby is very much into fitness, but like me, he’s had to adjust to life as a family of four.  His fitness routine kind of fell to the wayside, as did mine.  This year, we want to change that.  So with ACTION, we want to take more walks.  We want to do more activities.  We plan on teaching M to finally move on from her tricycle and possibly get her on biciycle with training wheels.  K loves to walk around open spaces, so we can go to a park and just walk, run and play.  Hubby wants us to walk to the local bagel shop on some weekend mornings.  It’s all about being active.  ACTION.

What is your one little word, and have you had any success in implementing it so far this year?

Last Sunday, we turned the clocks back one hour.  Thus, gaining an hour of sunlight, but losing an hour of sleep.

I’ve always dreaded this time change because of the loss of sleep, or what feels to be a loss of sleep, but have begun to appreciate the extra hour of daylight.

How do the kids adjust?

We never really saw any real adjustment issues with M.  We never really changed our schedules to accommodate the time change.  We kept things the same.  She never really had an issue with either time changes.

K, on the other hand, I’m not so sure.  She’s always been one to fight sleep.  She’s the shortest napper, she’s the earliest riser, she’s the latest sleeper.  She’s the exact opposite of M’s easy sleeping ways.  It’s maddening at times, but there really isn’t anything I can do.  She is who she is.

With the extra hour of daylight, I’m hoping to go back to our afternoon/early evening walks around our neighborhood.  I’m looking forward to running errands after Hubby gets back home from work without it getting dark too soon.  I’m looking forward to the summer where we can jump into the pool before dinner.

There’s a lot to look forward to during this time of the year.

How do your kids deal with the time change?

Ok.. so I dropped the ball on the whole “Thankful November” thing I wanted to do this year..

I figured that since tomorrow is Thanksgiving, I’d make up for it and just do a post about what I’m thankful for..

Obviously, I’m thankful for family.  Not only my little family of Hubby, M and I, but my entire family.. parents, brother, aunts, uncles, cousins, in laws, sibling-in-laws, nieces, nephews.. you related to me?  I’m thankful for you.. A major source of support and love comes from all of you.  I can’t thank you all enough for just being in my life. 

I’m especially thankful for M.  She’s my endless source of unconditional love and entertainment.  That girl loves me, and I hope that I never disappoint her.  I’m so thankful that she’s the little person I get to raise. 

I’m thankful for Hubby.  He is my partner in crime.  He is my teammate.  I am so very thankful that I get to spend the rest of my life with him.  He’s loving, he’s supportive, he’s entertaining, and he’s challenging.  I love him and I can’t wait to see what else our lives have in store for us.

I’m thankful for the roof over my head. 

I’m thankful for the ability to wake up every morning.

I’m thankful that I can function from day to day.

I’m thankful for my friends.  I’ve had to let go of some the negativity in my inner circle and regain my bearings.  I’m just thankful for the friends I do have helped keep my trust in basic friendships.  I’m thankful for the new friends I’ve made this past year and I’m thankful for the friendships of the past that have been rekindled due to social networking. 

I’m thankful for crafting.

I’m thankful for photographs.

I’m thankful for cameras.

I’m thankful for coffee.

I’m thankful for 2013. 

I’m thankful for life.

There are so many other things I’m thankful for.  I’ve probably forgotten some major ones and I’m sure I’ll remember them once this entry has been published…

I hope you all have a great Thanksgiving and a great beginning of the holiday season.

I will be taking the day off from the blog tomorrow to spend time with my family.. I hope you all have the opportunity to share this holiday with your family!

 

 

 

I know its late.. but October 30th was Hubby’s and my three-year wedding anniversary.

Three years.

While it may not seem like a long time to some, it’s still a long time to us.  Not in a bad way, just… in a “none of us have been in a marriage before this” way..

Three years.. he’s still a big deal to me.

After three years, I still look forward to having him home.  I still feel safe when he hugs me.  I still loved.  I still love.

I love the family we have created, and I look forward to what our family will turn into as time goes on.

Raise your invisible glasses for a toast:  Here’s to three years of happiness.. may God continue to bless us with many  more years to come!

Thankful November
November 6 – I’m thankful for coffee.  Yeah, you know it.

Since we’ve returned from our vacation, we noticed that our diaper bag has gotten a lot lighter. 

Gone are the multiple changes of clothes.  Gone are the big stacks of diapers.  Gone are all the other little parenting odds and ends that parents with infants bring with them.

So, Hubby and I decided to get rid of the diaper bag and just go with a big bag.

I have a big bag.  Years ago, during my young and single days, I purchased a pink Burberry purse for about $700.  (Ahhh.. the good old days..)

That bag is the perfect size to hold 4 diapers, a pack of wipes, an extra pair of leggings, and my wetbag.  My phone and wallet fit perfectly into it as well.

So, the purse that I had deemed my most prized possession for a good part of my early-mid twenties has now been “mommified.”  It’s turned into my diaper bag.  A definite sign of how much my life has changed.

We aren’t retiring our diaper bag for good.  We plan on still using it for the long, all day excursions. 

I’m actually really glad we’ve decided to downsize.  It’s almost liberating!

 

So, I’m still convincing Hubby to guest blog for me.  I  keep telling him that he can pretty much write about whatever he wants… sorta.

I still think it’s a good idea.  I still think it will provide readers with additional insight on our lives.. and our lives as parents..

I really think it’s a good thing..

But, in the meantime, I think I’ve found a guest blogger!

Trust me, this all sounded good in my head.  I’m hoping this executes just as cute as I’m thinking it will be..

The guest blogger is.. M!

Without further ado, here’s my 22-month old daughter, M.  Interview-style.  And believe me when I say that I made sure SHE did all her own typing.

Me:  So M, how’s life so far?
M: ////////////hhhhhh b sx (Translation: Good.)

Me:  What do you like to do for fun?
M: zfzffw4455 (Translation: I love teapots.  I like watching all the DVD’s my parents have given me.  I can’t forget, I LOVE playing with my iPad.  I especially love surfing through Youtube videos.)

Me:  Why can’t you sit still?
M: v       rr (Translation: Mom, I’m a year old.  What do you want from me?!)

Me:  Ok, one more question since you obviously don’t want to be sitting with me right now.  How do you rate me and Daddy’s parenting skills?!
M: prffffffffffff (Translation:  Considering the fact that I’m still alive, and I’m super happy most of the time, I’d say that you are both doing a great job.  I love you, kiss!)

Ok, so I may have embellished a little bit.  But don’t you think that’s what your kid would say if you asked them those questions?!

 

 

I read things about other parenting styles.

Rigid schedules.  Early bedtimes.  Strict diets.  All organic foods.  Homemade baby food.  No TV.  Limited TV.  3 Day Potty training. 

Do I stick M to a rigid schedule?  No.

Does she go to bed by 7pm?  No.

Do I make sure everything that touches M’s mouth is organic?  No.

Do I turn my nose to fried and/or processed foods for M? No.

Does M sleep in her own room? No.

Do I follow the parenting methods of some book or studied the works of parenting experts?  No.

Does that make me a bad parent?  Absolutely not.

Does it sometimes cause me to doubt my parenting skills?  Well.. sometimes…

Yes.. I do question my parenting skills.. and I do question my parenting choices.. but doesn’t everyone? 

Every family is different.  Every child is different.  Every parents “parents” differently. 

However, you can’t avoid comparing yourself to others.  It’s inevitable.   Even if you try to avoid it, sometimes you get unsolicited advice or even criticism of the choices you make for your child.  That causes you to question your skills.

I think a little self-doubt is healthy.  It keeps you aware of the different methods of dealing with parenting situations.  A little self-doubt allows you to think twice about a parenting decision and maybe even helps you try something different if your own methods aren’t quite working to your standards.

I’m learning that mommy doubt is natural, but I shouldn’t let get out of hand.  I’m ok with what I’m doing as a mother.  I’m ok with the decisions I’m making.  I’m ok with the little person M is becoming because of my parenting decisions.

I think the goal for every good parent is simple… to raise a good child to turn him or her into a good adult.  That’s the bottom line. 

 

 

With M’s 2nd birthday quickly approaching (in almost 2 months.. eek!), a huge topic of conversation between hubby and I is if we are ready to start thinking about baby #2.

My body feels ready.  My maternal instincts definitely yearn for another little baby.  Its pretty obvious I do want one every time I’m near a friend or family member with an infant..

The same goes with Hubby.  We’re constantly fawning over family and friend’s babies..

So.. basically.. we’re ready.

BUT…

But raising baby #2 is definitely going to be a different experience than raising M.

For one, we have M.  She’s a full blown active toddler.

My mind can’t wrap around the idea of doting over a newborn while wrangling an active toddler.  Do I have the capability to take care of both children?  PLUS.. can I do that in public.. by myself, if needed?!

That idea alone makes me think twice about introducing another kid into the family.

Second, M is very attached to me.. she’s my little buddy.. she’s my little sidekick.  We’ve got a bond that is so strong.. it’s not that I doubt if I’ll have that same bond with a second child.. it’s not that I doubt if I’ll be able to love a second child with the same intensity as I do M.. it’s not that at all.

It’s more about M.  I know tons of “first borns” have to deal with the arrival of a sibling, in fact, I did it myself!  I just worry about her.  I know she’ll adjust.. just like everyone else’s firstborns.. I know, in the end, she’ll be fine.  But.. there’s just that little bit of concern that tugs at my heart.. I just feel like she’s so young and won’t be able to understand everything… I’m sure every parent went through this thought process when thinking about baby #2.

It’s obvious I’m totally on the fence about the whole baby #2.

I know I’ll probably never be 100% ready.. but I also know that I’ll be able to pretty much handle what the future holds for our family..

I’ll keep you posted..

This past weekend was a loooong overdue 3-day weekend.

I cherish these weekends so much because it gives me one extra day to spend it all with my family.. I love being woken up by M instead of having to sneek out of the bed in the early hours of morning, hoping that I don’t wake her up.. but that issue is a whole different blog post for another day…

The weekend started off like any normal Saturday.. we slept in.. and stayed in bed for as long as M will allow.. Hubby made breakfast and while M ate, we did a major clean up of the apartment.. another long overdue task..

After lunch, I wanted to take M out.. either to the playground or the pool.. I was debating which place to take her, but the minute she heard “pool” her mind was made up to go there..

She’s such a waterbaby and LOVES the pool.  We have one of those shaded floaters for her, but she’s discovered that it’s so much fun to swim around without it.  She prefers daddy carrying her in the water now..

We stayed there for about 30-45 minutes because it’s always soooo hard to get her out of the pool.. then we took a shower and before we were even able to get her dressed.. she fell asleep!

The day was pretty lazy from then on..

Sunday, we decided to go to Balboa Park and visit a museum.. initially, Hubby and I wanted to go to the Museum of Man and look at the Torture exhibit, but they said that it wasn’t suitable for children.  We’ll probably go back when we can find the time to leave M with grandparents to check the exhibit out..

We settled on the Natural History Museum because my cousin recently went there and said there was a pretty cool dinosaur display.  The dinosaurs acutally moved!!!  Pretty exciting stuff.  M liked some of the dinosaurs but was a little scared of the moving T-rex.. who wouldn’t be? 

She had so much fun with all the interactive exhibits.  I’m so glad she has the opportunities to go to such places.  We all have so much fun as a family.

We stumbled upon an international food festival while we were there and we had to go.  We bought M a slice of pizza and Hubby and I enjoyed about 3 entrees from 3 different countries.  M ended up liking my paella, so instead of her pizza (which she was about half-way through with at this point) she ate my paella instead. 

We went home in time for M’s nap.  That’s the wonderful thing about living in San Diego.  Everything is so close by that we can enjoy it in the morning and be home in the afternoon for M’s nap! 

The rest of Sunday was pretty lazy…

Monday was just as lazy.  We slept in, again!  Then we had brunch at a local cafe.  Afterwards, we did a little grocery shopping at Sprouts.. Hubby and I are looking into some rice alternatives.. but again, tha’ts a whole different blog entry to get into eventually…

We went home and M napped.. longest nap ever! 

After that 4hr nap, we went out for more grocery shopping and dinner..

It was a very busy weekend, and I wasnt’ surprised when M pretty much fell asleep instantly once we went to bed..

It was full of great memories and pictures that I can’t wait to scrapbook!!!

Yesterday was a pretty awesome Mother’s Day.

It’s started off like any Sunday.. we went to Church, then went to lunch.

We went home after and I had the BEST Mother’s Day gift a mother could ever ask for… A NAP!  Yes.. I took a nap!

Because M fell asleep while we were all eat lunch, she missed out on eating with us while at the restaurant.  We went home for her to eat lunch and my mom and Hubby took care of everything while I lied down on the couch.. before I knew it, I was waking up!

Oh.. it was a wonderful nap!

Then, because it was such a wonderfully warm day yesterday, we took M and spent a good two hours in the pool!  She LOVED it.. it was the first swim of the year and I can’t wait to do it again!

We ended the day with dinner with Hubby’s family.. and then we went home for me to spend some time at the craft table..

All day, it’s like M knew.  She showered me with kisses and hugs, more than most days…

She really knows how to make her “mimi” happy!

I hope everyone else had a great Mother’s day!


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